Hi to all
I have copd caused by my husband smoking since 1985 ive tried to get him to stop smoking himself ive never smoked myself he also has copd has gone really thin he used to be overweight.
I dont have a cough at the moment my symptoms R breathlessness and servre fatigue,I have also broken my left leg going to the loo i lost my balance walking to the loo.
What can i do about my fatigue it stopping me from doing the cleaning i have no energy many health problems i only weighed 1lb 13oz when i was born in 62,I am finding it very hard to loose weight i think its very selfish of me being the recipient of me having copd because of his selfishness of smoking he promised me he was going to stop smoking when we got married never happened so i am suffering because of his selfishness.
Because of my many health problems i dont love him anymore he obvuiously dosnt care for me or he wouldnt have put me through passive smoking and made himself ill along with the same condition think he is at the end stage 4.
Ive asked him to help me clean but leaves everything to me.
I am having careres till my leg is better.
I cannot forgive him for the part he has played in my life as my life might end sooner my grandchildren will eventually be left with out myself eventually i would have loved to be around for them a lot longer if their grandad had never smoked.
Dolphin5005
My heart goes out to you,
. What a difficult situation. Do you see a pulmonologist. If so, have you mentioned the fatigue and dizziness? If not, that should probably be your next step. You might need supplemental oxygen and/or pulmonary rehab. Pulmonary rehab can help you learn exercises that make your entire cardiovascular system more effecient and give you more energy.
I wish you had more support from your husband. Smoking is a very powerful addiction. It sounds like he is really in its grips, especially if he continues to smoke now. But his fate doesn't have to be your fate. Many people with COPD progress very slowly and still live fully. You can probably do that as well with the right treatment and if you can at least get him to smoke outside.
Once your leg is healed, would you consider reaching out to someone you trust about the problems in your marriage and their impact on your health? Maybe a good friend, a family member, a pastor or a therapist? Personally, I think therapists are great in these situations because they are not invested in your life and they won't judge. A good therapist will listen and guide you on your path to better mental health.
If you keep waiting for things to get better, they won't and that might make your own physical and mental health worse. Please know we're always here for you when you need us. Gentle hugs. - Lori (Team Member)Hi Lori,
Thankyou for your kindness very nice of you.
I will seek further help i just have so much to contend with at the moment.
Really hard.
Dolphin5005.I wonder if, given your COPD diagnosis and your husband's poor health, you'd be able to keep the carers even after your leg is healed. Is this something you could look into? We're here to listen,
. Please know we care about you! -Melissa, team member Hi to all,
The Carers were only here for 4 days they said they dont need to be here anymore.
Dolphin5005
