Becoming invisible
I realize that the older we become, the more society, in general, ignores us. I guess we portray the mortality that people are uncomfortable with. I understand and was guilty of that fear in my youth. I don't take that generalization personally. BUT... when a family member or friend disappears me, it's different. Their ostracism I do take personally, though I try not. I have attempted communication with them but it's not working. So, I try to convince myself that their detachment is for the better,
as my passing won't be difficult for them. I'm sure others have or are having this situation and I am curious how they handle this.
My heart aches for you,
. Unfortunately, that is a common dynamic for people with most any chronic illness that limits them physically or cognitively. Here is an article from one person who found friends shyed away because of her COPD needs: https://copd.net/living/maintaining-friendships. Of course, family members take that sitaution to an entirely other level. Here is another article about coping with the loneliness of COPD: https://copd.net/caregiver/fight-against-loneliness. I hope these help and that others chime in with their own ways of copiing. I hope that family member eventually sees the light and comes back around. Gentle hugs. - Lori (Team Member) To be honest, I do not let things like this bother me. Simply, it is what it is. Was wondering if others were facing this type of situation. But thanks for the links.
I prefer to limit myself around family and friends and that's ok too. It is a journey we never expected. After the heart attack along with stage 3. They had hopes that the 4th stent and this in the LAD would ease things up a bit breathing. Nice to have hope, but certain things in life aren't always a given. Staying positive with good thoughts is giving me time. Yes it does help.
As I get older and older I am finding the same myself. Limiting to family and friends who know my situation is just easier and less stressful for most times. I get that we are supposed to live our "best lives" now when we get older but for me that just means the least amount of stress possible! I hope the LAD helps you to breathe in the end but remember also you are not alone! If there's anything we can do to help please let us know! Keep on keepin' on, DPM
