Letting go

Vicki, I'm so sorry for your loss. We are not gone - we are still here for you for as long as you need us. You are family here, and you are not alone. You're in my prayers every day. I wish for you that it gets just ever so little bit easier each day. We carry the scars of our loss always, and they are hard reminders, but over time they will give us strength, even if it's just enough to get by for today. One day at a time I move a foot and take another step. I know it won't get easier, but I also know it will gain value and be worth more. I have lost so many in my life, but I carry them with me in my scars, and they are my armor and power to go forward. I hope you can find comfort today, but if you struggle, take some from me. I can spare some and will gladly give it to you. I am thankful that you shared Dan with us, so we can remember him too.

, losing a loved one is never easy and there is no "right way" to grieve. Your emotions are valid and your struggle to let go is completely normal. No one is expecting you to be "okay" so soon after losing your husband. I know there is nothing that can make this loss easier but I do think you may find this article on grief helpful: https://copd.net/caregiver/stages-of-grief-caregiver. We are here for you whenever you need and I am sending you peace during this difficult time. All the best, Sam S. (COPD.net, team member).

Hi Vikki - nice to 'see' you here. After all you have been through, my heart truly goes out to you. It is never easy to lose someone who is close to you but, a spouse will always be a challenging and sorrowful adjustment.
Healing is gradual and takes time. How long? It can vary from person to person. As my colleague, , has suggested - there is no 'correct' way to grieve or heal. Follow your emotions and let them flow for yourself. Be kind and patient with yourself. Rely on your closer friends and relatives. Keep your memories sacred.
Dan will live on in your heart and through your life's work!
If there is anything we can do to assist you, please let any of us know. We are all here for you!
Warm regards,
Leon (site moderator COPD.net)

As others have said...there is no timetable for grief. Give yourself some grace during such a difficult time. I'm glad you have a community here of people who want to support and be here for you. There is no wrong way to walk through this journey. Sending you virtual hugs. April - COPD. net Team