Auntie with COPD
If you guys could help please ? X My auntie is getting worse I seen her today , I haven't seen her nor my uncle in ages and I love them to peices I miss them I feel great when Im near them .. anyways she isn't looking well at all and I have no idea how to help but I want to , they are very proud people and never ask for a thing even if there struggling .. my uncle has been through so much he is very depressed also ! I know the current status with COVID makes things harder but , I want to see them happy and laughing again even for 30 seconds of belly laughter or just something to show I'm here and I'll help with anything just please ask and something to show I always think of them and love them .. is there anything anyone could suggest many thanks x
Hi
, I'm sorry to hear your aunt and uncle aren't doing so well and I hear how much you wish to help them. I am sure others in our community will chime in but I am sure what you are doing already by going to visit and spending time with them is already helping and means so much to them. All the best, Sam S. (COPD.net, team member). Thankyou for your reply I've not been to see them as much as I like as I myself suffer with PTSD so things get tough , but I want to be able to send them something to tell them with a written letter how much they mean to me and how much I'm here to help when I can thankyou again xx
I understand how difficult it is these days for everyone. Sounds like your trying your best and that's great. I am stuck in my home as well with COPD so anytime I get a phone call, letter, or a visit, warms my heart. The simple things mean so much sometimes. Kind regards, Jeff(moderator) 
Hi Kim, and thanks for your post(s). I see my colleagues,, and , have already responded with good, supportive suggestions. I also have something to contribute.
I remember, over the many years of taking care of patients, they consistently tell me that if family/friends want to be of help, they shouldn't 'ask'. They should just 'do' discreetly and without making a fuss. The suggestions typically focus on helpful tasks/chores that they (the patient) can no longer accomplish easily. Examples include, making a meal (of more), straightening up the house, doing laundry, etc.
Do you think this might be something your aunt and uncle would appreciate? I realize you shared they would never ask and their pride is strong.
Wishing you well,
Leon (site moderator COPD.net)
