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How do I answer "will you be alright"?

Hi, I was just asked if I would be alright after telling someone I have severe COPD.

I didn't know how to answer that. I have just gotten to the severe stage and having to wear oxygen 24/7. Anybody have any advice on how to answer when someone asks that?

  1. i am on oxygen 24/7 and am averaging an exacerbation now about every 6 weeks.
    I have Chronic Respiratory Failure. When someone asks me how I am I tell them the
    truth as I am at the time. I take one day at a time and I give life all I can give on that day. I am caring for my 14 year old son, am home schooling him and am doing as much as I can to take the burden of caring for our home off my husband who has had two heart attacks. I
    will be here as long as my God wants me to be, whether it be a month or 10 years I will do the best I can and be thankful for every day. We adopted our grandson when I was 55 years old and my husband was 58. Our grandson was 5 months old. I was re- diagnosed with bronchiectasis the following year. I first was diagnosed at age 8 and had lower left lobe removed. I feel blessed that I had so many good years before it returned, I now also have asthma and emphysema ..I am still learning how to pick and choose what I do each day depending on how I feel. I am 69 and have had a good life and I believe I will see my 14 year old graduate from high school and head to college. Every breath is a true blessing. I am sorry for going on and on, I really just tell people, I am taking one day at a time and I plan on being here for a long time, but that is not my decision to make but I am a fighter. God Bless!

    1. It's our pleasure, Pandalady38. You are always welcome here. You may also find it helpful to check out our COPD page on Facebook. You can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/COPDDotNet/.
      You will find many of our members there throughout the day exchanging ideas and experiences in a more populated open forum.
      Warm regards,
      Leon (site moderator)

    2. Thank you so much for the support it means a lot.
      Have a wonderful week!

  2. I'm asked that a lot. I usually say I'm okay. I don't get into the topic much. I don't see the point in explaining my worsening lung condition. I just play it cool.

    1. Thanks, I think I will do that from now on.

  3. i am not a moderator and i may not be helpful. i would ask what that someone means by “alright”.

    1. I believe she was asking in a round about way, if this ment if this is incurable and would the inevitable be happening sooner than later. There wasn’t much time to go into details with her and I just said I don’t know. I wasn’t sure how to answer this at all.

    2. Thanks so much, Pandalady38, for providing your input. You were the one who was asked, after all, and would have the best view on what she may have meant! Warmly, Leon (site moderator)

  4. Pandalady38 - that's an excellent question! How nice that you have friends that are so concerned about you.

    The fact is, everyone deals with their COPD in a different way. "Severe COPD" is a term we use to describe the stage of COPD where a person probably experiences shortness of breath very often, is probably on oxygen (such as yourself), perhaps has problems sleeping and is suscetible to frequent exacerbations.

    However, that doesn't mean you aren't "ok". You've no doubt slowed down over time in what you can do and what you can expect of yourself. So, basically it's a new normal, but you're still alright.

    We've had a couple great article on the stages and what they mean (and how to explain it to someone). Here's a couple links.

    https://copd.net/basics/copd-stages/stages-explained/
    https://copd.net/living/end-stage-the-most-dreaded-misunderstood-misinterpreted-misused-destructive-term/

    Regards,
    Lyn (moderator)

    1. Thank you this helps me understand more so I can give a more educated answer.

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