How do I answer “will you be alright”?

Hi, I was just asked if I would be alright after telling someone I have severe COPD.

I didn’t know how to answer that. I have just gotten to the severe stage and having to wear oxygen 24/7. Anybody have any advice on how to answer when someone asks that?


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  • pat02
    1 year ago

    i am on oxygen 24/7 and am averaging an exacerbation now about every 6 weeks.
    I have Chronic Respiratory Failure. When someone asks me how I am I tell them the
    truth as I am at the time. I take one day at a time and I give life all I can give on that day. I am caring for my 14 year old son, am home schooling him and am doing as much as I can to take the burden of caring for our home off my husband who has had two heart attacks. I
    will be here as long as my God wants me to be, whether it be a month or 10 years I will do the best I can and be thankful for every day. We adopted our grandson when I was 55 years old and my husband was 58. Our grandson was 5 months old. I was re- diagnosed with bronchiectasis the following year. I first was diagnosed at age 8 and had lower left lobe removed. I feel blessed that I had so many good years before it returned, I now also have asthma and emphysema ..I am still learning how to pick and choose what I do each day depending on how I feel. I am 69 and have had a good life and I believe I will see my 14 year old graduate from high school and head to college. Every breath is a true blessing. I am sorry for going on and on, I really just tell people, I am taking one day at a time and I plan on being here for a long time, but that is not my decision to make but I am a fighter. God Bless!

  • Pandalady38 author
    1 year ago

    Thank you for sharing. I am new to this disease (COPD). I’ve only been diagnosed for about a year and moved quickly to Severe. There is a lot I need to learn. Thanks everyone for this forum.

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    It’s our pleasure, Pandalady38. You are always welcome here. You may also find it helpful to check out our COPD page on Facebook. You can find it here: https://www.facebook.com/COPDDotNet/.
    You will find many of our members there throughout the day exchanging ideas and experiences in a more populated open forum.
    Warm regards,
    Leon (site moderator)

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    That’s quite a story, patO2 and thanks for sharing it with us! No need to apologize either as sometimes it helps and can be cathartic just to share the story with others who understand. You keep up the good fight, Pat!! All the best, Leon (site moderator)

  • pat02
    1 year ago

    Thank you so much for the support it means a lot.
    Have a wonderful week!

  • Edi Mesa
    1 year ago

    I’m asked that a lot. I usually say I’m okay. I don’t get into the topic much. I don’t see the point in explaining my worsening lung condition. I just play it cool.

  • Pandalady38 author
    1 year ago

    Thanks, I think I will do that from now on.

  • larryrr
    1 year ago

    i am not a moderator and i may not be helpful. i would ask what that someone means by “alright”.

  • Pandalady38 author
    1 year ago

    I believe she was asking in a round about way, if this ment if this is incurable and would the inevitable be happening sooner than later. There wasn’t much time to go into details with her and I just said I don’t know. I wasn’t sure how to answer this at all.

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    Thanks so much, Pandalady38, for providing your input. You were the one who was asked, after all, and would have the best view on what she may have meant! Warmly, Leon (site moderator)

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    Hi larryrr – we appreciate you jumping in here and participating. I’m hopeful that Pandalady38 will provide a reply to you. However, you may find it helpful to scroll down and read her comments below.
    All the best,
    Leon (site moderator)

  • Lyn Harper, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    Pandalady38 – that’s an excellent question! How nice that you have friends that are so concerned about you.

    The fact is, everyone deals with their COPD in a different way. “Severe COPD” is a term we use to describe the stage of COPD where a person probably experiences shortness of breath very often, is probably on oxygen (such as yourself), perhaps has problems sleeping and is suscetible to frequent exacerbations.

    However, that doesn’t mean you aren’t “ok”. You’ve no doubt slowed down over time in what you can do and what you can expect of yourself. So, basically it’s a new normal, but you’re still alright.

    We’ve had a couple great article on the stages and what they mean (and how to explain it to someone). Here’s a couple links.

    https://copd.net/basics/copd-stages/stages-explained/
    https://copd.net/living/end-stage-the-most-dreaded-misunderstood-misinterpreted-misused-destructive-term/

    Regards,
    Lyn (moderator)

  • Pandalady38 author
    1 year ago

    Thank you this helps me understand more so I can give a more educated answer.

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    Hi Pandalady38 and thanks for your post on this very interesting inquiry.
    I’m understanding this to mean you were asked (by someone else) if YOU would be alright after you’ve told that person that you had severe COPD.

    If that’s the case, you may want to say something like – you’re being treated by a professional physician who is doing everything he can for you. Your medication, your oxygen, your treatment plan is all designed to help you cope and live with COPD. You sometimes have days that are better than others, but you believe you will live as best as you can and do as much as you are able.

    Others may come by with other suggestions.

    This is one type of narrative you may want to use. Or, you may want to add to it and make it more from yourself.

    Please let us hear from you as to how you feel about these replies to your concern. We can help you through should you want to discuss even further.

    Warmly,
    Leon (site moderator)

  • Pandalady38 author
    1 year ago

    Thank you this helps a lot.

  • Leon Lebowitz, BA, RRT moderator
    1 year ago

    It’s our pleasure, Pandalady38. Glad we could be of help to you!
    All the best,
    Leon (site moderator)

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