I know very well how you feel. I have had ra for over 10 years by the time I was diagnosed it has destroyed many of my joints. The I was diagnosed with copd. I have had a lot of pity parties. Glad you have support. My family is not supportive. My husband is becoming more understanding he was in denial for a long time. I now make sure he sets in on my doctor's visits. This has help him to understand what is going on and brought him to be willing to help me. These are horrible diseases and I wish you the best. I truly understand