I need tips for living with a smoker.
My husband is still smoking and he said he would stop smoking in the house, but he hasn't. I don't know how to live with this.
kate You have to give him a choice either faster out or himself, It hinders any chance you recieving oxygen, Depending how bad you have it, I'm in the gold category and can't find a home and a gas cooker stops me from having oxygen, Your husband is showing his true colours and you have to be strong, If he won't listen to you drag him to the doctors and have them tell him the importance,After all iff you were pregnant he'd expect you to stop.
We've been married for 42 years. I pretty much know my husband. And he is not going to stop smoking. He only smokes in his bedroom. And he does not smoke in the car anymore. So I am thankful for that. I just need to know if there is any way I can contain the situation. There must be other people out there that are living with this situation. Am I the only one?
That's such a hard thing to deal with, Kate. It is one thing to choose to smoke, and another to subject others to that choice. Have the two of you talked about him smoking outside? It's good that he tries to limit smoking to one area, but he also needs to understand that will still harm your health, and it is especially dangerous to be exposed to smoke as someone with COPD.
Make sure that when you talk about this with him, you let him know that you are happy he stopped smoking in the car and is limiting his smoking to the bedroom. That is a good start and it is easier for someone to hear criticism when we also give them positive feedback, too.You might also share this article with him about the way smoke can linger and impact an area. It might sound discouraging, but if he won't quit, you can at least encourage him to continue to take steps to minimize your exposure.
https://copd.net/living/third-hand-smoke
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