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I really need help with family

I have not been on this for a while, but I really really need advise. I have lived with my parents since I got sick 10 or 11 yrs ago. I am 58 yrs old and COPD has began to get worst, due to pulmonary rehab shut down. And my dad passed away a few months. I have had a really hard time with my COPD and have had to ask for her help a few times,. But now mom and my older sister have appeard decided I need to locate an assisted living living place. I could be wrong but I don't think I could do that to anyone. Anyone else have this problem? What did u do,?


  1. Hi Sunshine, and thanks for your post(s). I see you posted something very similar elsewhere on our COPD.net community platform, for which my colleague, , was able to provide a response (as , one of our community members), did right here.
    For ease of reference, here is the link to your other post: https://copd.net/forums/i-really-need-help-with-family#reply-112274.
    I do hope you have an opportunity to look over her comment as well, if you haven't already.
    Wishing you well,
    Leon (site moderator COPD.net)

    1. Good morning, Sunshine! Wow - I can't believe I just did that. But it was there, and I had to do it. Sorry. Anyway - I feel your pain! My youngest son brought this up to me last week. He is trying to weasel out of helping me financially, though he owes me big time. I love him, and I don't want trouble, but I am still able to walk, talk, function physically, etc. and I have no intention whatsoever of giving in to this idea any time soon. Certainly not for his convenience. I may have to use some leverage. You might consider asking for outside help from one of your care-providing agencies to mediate this family discussion. I don't know where you are. I am in the US, so I have access to social workers. I can't say for sure how much help they might be, but I will hammer on them when I need to anyway and see what happens. One thing is for sure, and that is that no one will help you if you don't ask. Asking here is a good start. We might need to know what country you are in to advise you. I'm in Texas. I'm 70, I have Medicare, supplemental insurance (Plan G), and I have access to several agencies that might help. But I also have a similar issue going on, which is that I will soon lose my home, and have to move to a low-income apartment, but I cannot currently qualify, so I am trying to find help, none yet. But I'll have to keep on searching. Sounds like you might need to do something similar. Keep us posted on how it goes. I will do the same.

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