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Hello, I was having a hard time trying to sleep so I finally just got up and got on my computer. I came across this website and here I am. My Dad had COPD. I couldn’t tell you how many times he quit smoking only to start again. He used to beg me to quit.

In 2005 he became very ill and went to the hospital. My brother and I both received calls telling us that we needed to come in and meet with the doctor and a social worker. We were told that Dad could not live alone anymore and that we should consider hospice. My brother made his excuses and left, leaving me to figure it out so I met with hospice and we went to the house and got everything set up (hospital bed, oxygen, etc.) for the hospital to dismiss him. With much uncertainty I packed up my apartment, left my life, and drove the 30 miles back to my hometown to become his caregiver.

The next few months were too much to write about but I will say that as hard as they were, I will forever cherish that time with my dad. At the time, I never knew or understood what he was going through. He would ask, “Do you think I could light up a cigarette?” and I’d say “Daddy, if you did you would probably blow up with that oxygen.” We’d laugh a little and then I’d go out in the backyard to smoke. He died 6 months after I heard of COPD for the first time and a year and a half later I found myself in the hospital being told that I have COPD. I had to have open heart surgery in 2010 and I have not had a cigarette since. I am Stage 3 now and I learn more each day about this COPD monster. Now I am trying to figure out how to make my children understand it.

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Comments

  • Colleen K
    3 years ago

    Thanks to everyone who shares there story. I wrote mine and it was kinda therapeutic.

  • Jenn Patel
    3 years ago

    Hi Colleen!

    We’re so glad that you shared your story with us and that it was therapeutic for you! It’s wonderful for us to hear from you, and I have a strong feeling the community appreciates it very much, too.

    Best,
    Jenn (Community Manager, COPD.net)

  • Meaghan Coneys moderator
    3 years ago

    Hi Patt1013,

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. So sorry to hear about the loss of your father. It sounds like the last few months you had with him you will be able to cherish forever. That is a gift in itself. It also sounds like you are faring well since your surgery, which is so great to hear. Congrats on quitting smoking! It can be so challenging having others fully understand what it is like to live with COPD. It may helpful to pass along information from our COPD Basics page – https://copd.net/basics/. Also, the following articles provide more specific information on how to help friends and family understand your life with COPD – https://copd.net/living/help-friends-and-family-understand/, https://copd.net/answers/expert-answers-explaining-to-family-friends/. I hope you find them helpful! Again, thank you for sharing your story with us. We are so happy you are a part of our community and we love hearing from you. Please continue to reach out when needed. Sending loads of good energy your way.

    Warmly,

    Meaghan (COPD.net Team)

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