Living with COPD, or is it?

By arnoldbentley

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First thing you gotta learn and accept when you have COPD is that your married life is over as you used to know it. Not a lot of women can deal with the slower pace that COPD causes. It can be lived with but it takes a little work. With COPD you can do most everything that you used to, just a little slower.

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jennl Member
Hi arnoldbentley - thanks for sharing your experience with us! It's important to note that COPD may affect peoples' relationships differently, and we appreciate your talking about how it's been going for you. It sounds like you have a great approach - to take life slower and still be able to do most everything. feel free to drop by any time! Best, Jenn (COPD.net Team)
1. wally2 Member
 helo, I know what you mean about effecting family, my wife and I been married 47 years I was told I have copd last nov also had to have sugery, my wife is a very strong min ded person so wont let me sit fealing sorry for myself her and my sons daughter and grown up grandchildren have all helped me , we find a sense of humor helps I think some people might find us a bit strange but we try and find the funny side of everything including this awful copd, I'm stage 3 and have some bad days but many good days iv even started to go out to family get togethers, I'm lucky I have a wonderful family if anything its brought us closer wally
2. Leon Lebowitz, RRT Member
 Hi wally2 and thanks for sharing with us what works for you and your family. It's always advantageous when you have a strong (family) support system. And keeping a sense of humor is a big asset too! It's very gratifying to hear that you are getting out to family gatherings as well. We're glad to have you as part of our online community. Warm regards, Leon (site moderator)
Edi Mesa Member
I'm sorry that you feel this way. Im 24 and I thought I'd be married by now with children and my own home. Instead, I live with my parents who take care of me. I can blame copd for how snail-life has been. But, I can't. I can't perform as a woman behind closed doors or enjoy grocery shopping The simplicity of life is sliced into fragments that one must reconnect to continue on. I value my lessons and errors through my medically enduring life, it's just how some things are. Good luck to you.
1. Leon Lebowitz, RRT Member
 We're glad to have you as part of our online community, Edi Mesa. If there is anything we can do to assist you, please let me or any other moderator/team member know. Warm regards, Leon (site moderator)
rjean Member
OopsI posted this at wrong place.Let's try it againI would never leave my boyfriend because he has COPD . I have told him he was my hero because of they way he has handled everything that has been thrown at him these past 2 years..COPD does not define him or you.Its a terrible illness that has turned his world upside down just as I am sure it has yours.You find a way to get around EVERYTHING and make life work.
1. jennl Member
 Thanks so much for sharing, MustangSallyrj! Wow, it sounds like your boyfriend is very lucky to have such a caring, helpful person in his life. We appreciate your being here! - Jenn (COPD.net Team)
susanmarie Member
I can relate to this, from being ill, my ex live in partner was not treating me with any regard, he could not cope with me feeling tired, having so many headaches etc, hence he is now my ex, I am 55, never been married, I have to ask, what hope is there for me of finding love now my illness as progressed. Not that I need to have a lover, but would be nice to have a companion who really cared.