gracefulgailg56
"I have been dealing with my husband, dad and mom passing the most recently - I am still grieving and trying to keep my COPD in check not always easy. So far I haven't had any major flares that causes me any alarms. I am also being forced out of the place that I currently reside in not helping the situation at all. The fact that I don't know where I am going next scares the hell out of me. I am reaching out to various agencies in my area for help. The force out is out of my control but the timing couldn't have come at the worst time. I am not allow to say why things are so shaky. My husband death anniversary is coming up next month and so much has happened. The force out doesn't just affect me it also affects my teenage daughter as well. I'm not writing this for sympathy. I am just letting you know what I am dealing with some really hard crap. "
I know you are not looking for sympathy,
, but my heart still aches for you and your daughter. That is an awful lot of grief to process at once and, now, to be force out of your home as well, that a heavy load. I hope a local agency is able to help and that you find a new home quickly. Please know we are here for you whenever you need us, whether you need support or a place to vent. If you don't mind, keep us updated about you sutuation. I will be thinking and worrying about you. Gentle hugs. - Lori (Team Member) 
thank you I'm scared Do you have a deadline for getting out? Do you live in an area where there is temporary housing for the homeless that is not a shelter? Please reach out to anyone who you think might be able to help, even churches you don'r belong to. Most churches do not limit their outreach to members-only. Warmly, Lori (Team Member) I've been told the house is going on the market soon. I don't have an exact moving date yet. I did reach out to the church that I am attending and will become a member. I am working with town organizations and asked one to help me fill out forms. The problem is other than letters recently given to me - there is no form lease or anything that shows a contract. That makes it difficult too. I am not giving up hope that there will be a new place for us. I hope the church or another organization is able to help,
, and that your daughter doesn't let the situation distract her too much from her school work. Take all the help you can get. I'll be looking for more updates from you. Warmly, Lori (Team Member) 
Most would be concerned, even afraid for all that you are going through. It's most important that you remember to breathe. You have so much going on.
It's good that you are reaching on, so often the agencies will have the best contacts and maybe even know about places available that aren't advertised.
Letting yourself go through the grieving stages are important. For your daughter as well. The anniversaries can feel fresh for some time, the holidays as well. If you feel it's necessary, don't be afraid to talk with someone.
I hope that you find someplace that brings you and your daughter, comfort and peace.
As Lori said, we are here for you.
Janet (moderator/COPD.net)@Janet Plank Thank-you, it's just a lot to endure at this time. I am trying to keep my head up and some days it's not easy. I appreciate the place to vent and trying to keep all of this under control.
Hi Gail. Just wanted to send you a giant hug of support and see how you are doing this week. Any new developments? You are managing so much and yes, we are here for all the venting you need to do. I hope that in the midst of all of this you are finding small moments of peace -- a movie, a game with your daughter, a good book. You still deserve to rest and care for yourself, especially when life is so shaky. I will hold you in my thoughts. <3 -Melissa, copd team I am still stuck at the moment. I have placed an application for housing assistance but it's a waiting game. I just hope I find the place before they pull the rug out from both of us. It's scary not knowing where I'm going next with my daughter. Mix bag of emotions but trying to stay positive. I can't give up. 
I’m sure the uncertainty of where you and your daughter are going to live is very hard to deal with. I hope you get some assistance soon. Becky(moderator) I put in applications and now it's a wait and see what happens. It's stressing me out a bit. I know you are trying to stay positive and not stress but waiting patiently right now must be taking a lot of willpower. We are pulling for you. I am sending positive thoughts and energy. Please keep us posted! Becky (moderator) Yes, I have to be out of here by the end of July. my daughter school work has taken a hit but the school has been giving her support. She just needs to be there to graduate and pick up a few grades. Thank you, this process is hell with the extra stress but we are managing slowly. no new developments yet - the forms to the various agencies just went in two weeks ago. It's a waiting process and trying to find a new way of coping through all of this. I am glad to hear the school is being so supportive,
. Is your daughter able to see a counselor through the school as well? Does she have any plans for after graduation? At least you now have a move-out date and you know you won't be out of the street tomorrow, though July isn't that far away. Have you been given any idea as to how long your application for housing assistance might take? - Lori (Team Member) My daughter has a therapist she speaks to weekly outside of school. There is a counselor available at the school as well. After Graduation she plans on going to U Mass Darmouth for Studio Arts and switching to Interior Design. I do not know how long the housing application is going to take but the process has started. U Mass Darmouth is a great school. How awesome for your daughter,
. If she can get through college and become financially stable, I am sure that will help you both. I hope your application is approved quickly. Sending lots and lots of those positive vibes your way. - Lori (Team Member)