Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I stay home or should I go? How often do we ask ourselves this when invited to go somewhere?

I’m sure it’s too many to count.

My cousin Rhonda and her husband Todd invited my family and me to stay at their cabin in Wisconsin. They go there on weekends and holidays and call it their happy place.

Of course, I kept wondering if going was the right choice.

Is leaving my house worth the hassle?

It would be so much fun, but it would be lots of work. I would enjoy the fresh air, but I worried my allergies would bother me.

It would probably be beautiful but would it be too humid for me to breathe? I know they will want to go on their pontoon boat, but will I be able to get on? Is there a hill to walk up when I get off? Will my batteries last long enough? What if I have to go to the bathroom?

So many things to worry about or think about. I know they will want to ride on the side by side and go on the trails but will the fumes bother me?

Will my anxiety kick in? I hate to depend on others and worry that I will annoy them.

We only live once, right? Why am I always questioning myself when I can be out doing things I enjoy? They wouldn’t have invited me if they weren't willing to give me a hand where I needed it.

I'm so glad that I went. I had the best weekend in a very long time. My family could not go because of work, so I asked my siblings if they would like to go.

It has been forever since we did anything together and a while since we had all seen our cousins.

Determined to go have some fun

I was sad that it ended up just being me and my brother Ed because my other siblings had work and other obligations, but I am so glad we still went. Usually don’t like to go places without my husband or son because I have such a hard time carrying some things, and they usually help me.

I knew I could do it by myself if I had to. I have done it before, but my brother stepped in and helped me with everything.

Ed and I took off Thursday afternoon and had a great ride. We talked about our parents because we lost them in 2019 and 2020.

We talked about when we were growing up. I sure laughed a lot.

I think it was good for us both. It was great catching up with him.

Our first stop was near Rochester, MN, where my cousin John and his wife live.

This broke up our trip and allowed us to visit with them. They took us out to dinner and stayed the night at their house. We had a great visit with them.

We got up Friday, ate breakfast, and headed for the cabin. Again, we had some good times chatting away about different events in our life.

We got to the cabin and were just sitting enjoying the view. It was so beautiful and peaceful there, off nestled in the woods. We spotted a fawn and her mama right away when we arrived.

Not regretting getting outside

They were just standing there, looking at us through the window. Such a site to see.

We always see deer in Illinois but not right outside our windows. Rhonda and Todd took us to a delicious fish meal, and we returned and enjoyed the night.

On Saturday, there was an overcast and sprinkling on and off the day. After breakfast, we went on a ride side by side. They took us throughout Danbury to see all the lakes and beautiful cabins along the way.

It is very exquisite. We were gone for a couple of hours and took the pontoon out on the lake.

It was lovely, with overcast skies and a pleasant breeze. To my surprise, we heard and saw the loons on the lake.

I even got to drive the boat for a bit. It was my first time driving one.

It was very exciting, but not so much for the others. We enjoyed a pleasant lunch onboard and then headed back to the cabin.

Todd and Rhonda fixed us a great supper that we enjoyed, and just had a great time catching up and laughing about our old childhood memories and all the great holidays we spent together.

Yes. We should always go if we can. It may be challenging, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t do it. With the help of a friend or family or us just doing it slowly but surely we should do it!!!!

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