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It's the Little Things

About a year ago, I wrote an article called "What’s In Your Pocket?" Today, what keeps coming to mind is “it’s the little things”. It seems that what’s in the forefront of my mind are all of the little things that are so big and hard. They are the ones that are most difficult, the ones that cause pain, or the ones that keep me in survival mode.

Am I the only one who does this?

Yet, there are some big things that can’t be avoided. Lately no matter how many times I try, the little things become big things. It seems that it used to be easier to put these little things away. The big things never go away, yet the little things diminish them. Am I the only one who does this? Sometimes I have to chuckle because of my silliness.

What am I avoiding?

Four years ago, on February 25, 2016, was the last time that anyone has heard from my granddaughter. She will have been missing for four years. She left Aberdeen, SD to go to Atlanta, GA  where she was looking for a better life and a bigger city. It’s so hard not knowing if she is ‘above ground’ meaning alive or ‘below ground’ meaning dead. This is how they define it to us. There are people looking, watching for her. Some days are more difficult than others.

Coping through the big things

Through all things with COPD, we are told to ‘Breathe’, we are told to pace ourselves, to put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Sometimes the big things can seem so overpowering. Even as we struggle to breathe, do what you need to for your health first and then try to find something that brings peace.

Keep on keeping on

I know that I can’t do anything, except pray and reach out to others. It's important to "keep on keeping on". I can do as I like and feel I should do, by making a Facebook page and reaching out to the families of the missing. To those who are supporting us physically or online.

Seeing others who are suffering the same thing makes my heart break. Sometimes, no matter how heartbreaking it can be, or challenging it is to find a reason to smile, smile. It does help. That help can also be for the recipient of the smile.

It's similar to COPD

Our heartbreak can be similar to COPD, depending on each person, on their lives, and within their lives. You might be in an early stage of COPD or a later stage. You might have other health issues that you are coping with. Along with health issues, it seems most people are coping with things in their lives. Maybe a loved one has passed away or maybe someone is very sick.

How do you cope?

Do you focus on the little things? Intentionally I can find things to focus on and they can be little things. Maybe the focus will be on what I can or can’t have. Maybe I will focus on things I need to do and how I need to do them. These little things surely work in changing my focus, which can seem so overwhelming.

Focusing on what is

I need to focus on what is and what I can do about it. Sometimes I do avoid people. Outside of the support pages, it can get overwhelming trying to answer all of the questions. Sometimes I need to stop and enjoy time with my hubby and furbabies. I enjoy family times, even if they are usually on the phones.

What do you do?

There is writing, I love to write! I love sharing here with you periodically. I love to share and hope to help! These are my passions. It’s important for each of us, even when times are most difficult, to find something to ease the moment. I always said that if whatever is going on in my life can help someone, that gives me purpose. It seems by sharing what I know and hearing what you say teaches me so much.

My heart goes pitter-patter

Stress can affect COPD and make it harder to breathe. I debated on writing about my granddaughter, Morgan, here. Yet, I feel that it’s important to share this part of my story.

I have been known to tell people that we need to slow down in our conversations to relieve some of the stress or I’ll have to call back later. Maybe it isn't me reacting, it can be the other person. Everyone seems to have something that they are coping with and health can be a major stressor. It's important to realize some of the struggles that we may be facing. Sometimes my heart goes pitter-patter and sometimes I need my inhaler. Or maybe someone else may need theirs. I do pretty well most of the time, except now that this anniversary date is getting closer. Sometimes it's a relief to find a cute tv show or pick on my husband.

For the health of us all

Morgan makes my heart go pitter-patter, as do my other 12 grandchildren. For my health and for the lives and health of each of my family members and my COPD families, we need to know that the world doesn’t stop. That we need to be there for each other.

Have you heard these sayings?

Have you heard the sayings “What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander”? How about the one that says, “Do you practice what you preach”? Yes, I've heard. Nope, I’m not always good at practicing. How about you? Do you have any fun sayings? Humor is so important. So is your health. A smile or even a giggle can bring so much relief to whatever ails a person. For me anyway. Yet, I have to be willing.

I have followed my own advice

I haven't been feeling well and did see my doctor a little over a week ago. Friday is a follow-up appointment. That’s what I would recommend you do too if you “feel” you need to see the doctor, please do. Be careful, there is so much flu going around and hospitalizations. Wear a mask as needed and wash your hands frequently. Stress can affect COPD and make it harder to breathe. If you think you are experiencing an exacerbation, flu, RSV, pneumonia, or even the coronavirus, do call your doctor to see if you should go in.

People weren’t created to be alone

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